Marion Light

Marion Light M.Ed. RPP RPE
Emotional Wellness Therapies

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An Inner Journey to Motherhood

April 26th, 2010

Transformational Retreats for Women desiring a deeper alignment with Self and a richer, more joyful experience of life.

Our thoughts, feelings and beliefs have a direct impact on our biology. The healing of unresolved emotional issues frees our heart and with that our creative force. Becoming a mother is a very powerful creative experience and requires most of our energy to be in present time. The emotions held in the body, from grief to sadness to anger and blame, create resistance to the natural flow of life. It is essential that we do not ask Why this is happening to us and rather How do I move through this experience with my essential Self intact. To support both allopathic and complementary medical treatments for any physical issues related to infertility, it is important to look into the emotions that arise from experiences related to fertility or even limiting patterns from your past. Remember, you have done nothing wrong, you are not being punished, and life is definitely not fair. Our essential self must have the freedom to breathe, to speak, to be sad and angry, to create. The conditioned responses from previous pain and from past events as well as familial patterns remain locked in our subconscious minds until we do the deep personal self reflection that shines a light on what might be blocking us from our true heart’s desires.

A common message to women going through fertility struggles is that they should remain positive. I find this just adds more pressure on the women. Naturally a constant negative attitude is detrimental to the creative process, however, it is more important to be true to what you are really feeling and focus on staying present, rather than lost in pain and regret from the past or fear of failure in the future.


Possible emotions that arise

• Grief over a loss of a baby and/or miscarriage

• Sadness over not being able to conceive

• Resistance to letting go

• Fear of hoping

• Fear of failure

• Fear of further pain

• Fear of life changes and changes in relationship with partner

• Fear of childbirth, hospitals and medical treatments

• Anxiety over being a good mother and feeling ready for motherhood

• Anxiety over balancing a career with parenting

• Anxiety over the loss of independence

• Concern about body changes

• A complete loss of control

• Anger and resentment

• Jealousy and envy of women who have children

• Anger at Spirit or God

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Communication is the key to joyful, healthy relationships

March 15th, 2010

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” Anthony Robbins

Conscious communication is essential in maintaining healthy and peaceful relationships. Almost all of us are looking to experience peace and harmony with both partners and friends. This requires a level of emotional connection that is more possible if the two parties each have an open and intimate relationship with themselves. I have found in my work with couples that they often seem to be communicating on different planes and when they are really able to meet each other in a place of mutual rapport, their connection is deepened or renewed. The disharmony is usually caused by unrealistic expectations of the other person and the relationship. When we communicate from our intellects, one person has to be right and therefore, the other wrong. This results in distancing between the two parties causing unhappiness and separation.

It takes courage to speak truth to each other about how we feel inside of our relationships. Men and women move around the truth attempting to not hurt their partner’s feelings by not expressing what they truly feel. This means that they have to suppress their true emotions which then go underground and work unconsciously often resulting in passive-aggressive behavior or disconnect. Many of us are uncomfortable with our own emotions and want to avoid feeling them at all costs. This ultimately wears down the connection as each person makes assumptions based on their own unresolved relationship with themselves. As time goes, each partner begins to project onto the other their own limiting beliefs and unprocessed emotions. This is a recipe for much pain and separation.

Truthful and open communication with each other allows a space for resolution of potentially harmful issues between two people. If the truth is left unspoken it will be suppressed and therefore begin to eat away at the fabric of the connection. Speaking the truth does not mean giving honest opinions of the other person. It means speaking from your heart about how you are feeling within the relationship and within your life. In order to speak from the heart it is important that you have developed a level of consciousness and that you are connected to your own emotional body so you can be aware of what it is you are truly “feeling” and not what you are “thinking” about what the other person did. Conscious communication allows you then to express these feelings in a way that opens up space between you for connection instead of causing pain that shuts each other down.

It takes courage to be open and vulnerable and a commitment from each partner not necessarily to stay together but to be present to each other at all times and to make decisions in the present moment about what is best for each person and for the relationship. Let’s break through the collective limiting belief that it is not possible to be happy, healthy and open within our relationships. Trust yourselves.

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Emotional Wellness attained through inner awareness

October 8th, 2009

Our emotions play a major role in manifesting a healthy and joyful life. When we are emotionally balanced we are able to move through lifeʼs challenges with some ease. Emotional balance is created by listening to our inner selves and allowing ourselves to feel and not suppress what is there. I have found that most people have intellectual understanding of their emotions and yet do not experience the depth of healing possible until they connect with the sensations of the emotions in a conscious way and become aware of where they are lodged in the body. This is the premise of the work I do every day with men, women and children and I am honored to witness their deepening relationship with who they essentially are.
A common fear is that if we allow ourselves to feel our emotions, they will take over our lives and we will never stop crying or raging or being in fear. Actually, the opposite is true. Just because we do not allow ourselves to feel our emotions, does not mean they do not exist. They work undercover and can potentially create havoc with our health and relationships. It never works to “sweep things under the rug.”
Many of our illnesses are created by a prolonged suppression of our thoughts and feelings. There is no separation between body and mind. We are complex beings and our experiences are registered in our physical body and it is through the body that we receive messages about what we need to pay attention to.
Having the courage to go beyond treating symptoms to focussing on healing the whole Self requires our attention to be fully in present time and to look within. This awareness then leads to the next step of fully embracing every part of you by sitting with the feeling without judging it or rationalizing it away. As the stuck energy moves, new awarenesses emerge and a lighter Self with a true sense of inner power is revealed. What we are able to do when we have emotional well being is respond to situations in a more empowered way and this results in a healthier, more peaceful existence.
Suggestions:
1. Remember to breathe deeply through the nose all the way into the pelvis.
2. Become aware of sensations in the body, just observing, no judgement. Is your chest
tight? Is there a warm flow or tingling in your body? Do you have pain in the solar plexus? Are your neck and shoulders in pain? Notice the intensity and quality of the sensation. If it is pressure is it coming from the inside or pushing down from the outside? Anything else that allows you to deepen your experience.
3. Feel the feelings and stay completely present with them.
4. Give yourself the gift of your full awareness and notice thoughts and memories that arise.
5. Remember, no destination, just listening.
6. Spend at least 15 minutes a day doing this exercise. 7. If something happens that evokes emotion, allow the emotion and access the
sensations in the body.

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