Transformational Retreats for Women desiring a deeper alignment with Self and a richer, more joyful experience of life.
Our thoughts, feelings and beliefs have a direct impact on our biology. The healing of unresolved emotional issues frees our heart and with that our creative force. Becoming a mother is a very powerful creative experience and requires most of our energy to be in present time. The emotions held in the body, from grief to sadness to anger and blame, create resistance to the natural flow of life. It is essential that we do not ask Why this is happening to us and rather How do I move through this experience with my essential Self intact. To support both allopathic and complementary medical treatments for any physical issues related to infertility, it is important to look into the emotions that arise from experiences related to fertility or even limiting patterns from your past. Remember, you have done nothing wrong, you are not being punished, and life is definitely not fair. Our essential self must have the freedom to breathe, to speak, to be sad and angry, to create. The conditioned responses from previous pain and from past events as well as familial patterns remain locked in our subconscious minds until we do the deep personal self reflection that shines a light on what might be blocking us from our true heart’s desires.
A common message to women going through fertility struggles is that they should remain positive. I find this just adds more pressure on the women. Naturally a constant negative attitude is detrimental to the creative process, however, it is more important to be true to what you are really feeling and focus on staying present, rather than lost in pain and regret from the past or fear of failure in the future.
Possible emotions that arise
• Grief over a loss of a baby and/or miscarriage
• Sadness over not being able to conceive
• Resistance to letting go
• Fear of hoping
• Fear of failure
• Fear of further pain
• Fear of life changes and changes in relationship with partner
• Fear of childbirth, hospitals and medical treatments
• Anxiety over being a good mother and feeling ready for motherhood
• Anxiety over balancing a career with parenting
• Anxiety over the loss of independence
• Concern about body changes
• A complete loss of control
• Anger and resentment
• Jealousy and envy of women who have children
• Anger at Spirit or God
Awaken, Embrace, Empower
Self-limiting internal beliefs thrive as long as they are able to stay underneath conscious awareness. We need to shine a light on these patterns so they lose the power they have over us.
1. What is my fertility story?
2. Where in that story have I left part of my Spirit?
3. What emotions have left a toxic residue?
4. Where in my body-mind are those emotions held?
5. What belief patterns have I taken on related to my unresolved emotions?
6. Where in my life do these limiting belief patterns originate?
Instead of trying to rid ourselves of our shadow aspects and suppress our pain, it is better to embrace all aspects of who we essentially are, even those parts we do not like.
What will it take for me to accept and embrace this situation as it is, just for now?
Am I able to embrace myself just as I am and let go of judgment?
To reclaim or connect to our deep inner power, we have to first let go of what is no longer serving us. It is also important to let go of the tight grip we have on outcomes. Letting go is not the same as giving up. It means letting go of the attachment to the outcome and how that outcome is realized. You stay connected to your dreams and desires and then allow the outcomes to take care of themselves
When we let go and align with our true inner power, we can experience expansion, joy and freedom and are able to trust life on every level. This way we can connect to our place of inner strength so that whatever we are going through, it remains possible to stay in the present moment and feel a sense of freedom and peace.