“All of our great traditions, religious, contemplative and artistic, say that you must a learn how to be alone – and have a relationship with silence. It is difficult, but it can start with just the tiniest quiet moment.” David Whyte
The challenge of heartbreak is to remain open in your heart through times of pain and loss. This is a gift we can give to ourselves. Our natural tendency or habit is to shut down around pain and move into our intellects to understand what happened and to judge both ourselves and others regarding what went wrong. In doing this we leave ourselves and miss the opportunity to heal and grow through our life experiences. Sometimes we judge our loss or pain as not so bad because we know others around us have had more to bear, yet it is our pain and it deserves our attention. Give yourselves the gift of some time in silence and listen deep within to uncover what is really true and what you really need in those moments. The mind will just want you to “fix” the pain and will constantly take you away from yourself and leave you creating scenarios of judgement, regret and fear. All of life’s experiences teach us more of who we are and if we use those times of pain when our heart is broken open to listen, we will uncover more of our essential natures. This knowing will lead us to the next step of our journey and deepen our connection within and with others. This relationship allows us to trust in ourselves and realize we have no control over what happens next in the mystery of our lives. While seemingly frightening, a surrender into our life’s unfolding offers the reward of some peace within.
Please be gentle and loving with yourselves and take some time in silence and breath to connect into your heart.
Love and Light,